Monday, December 12, 2011

Design Wall Monday

Remember how I said a few weeks ago that all I had to do was quilt Log Cabin Baby and then I was going to get Rooty Tooty machine quilted? Hey. I just finished the hand quilting yesterday. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that I can finish the binding in the next day or so and THEN I'll work on Rooty Tooty. I guess that's the fate of being a busy homeschooling mom. I only get bits of time here and there to work on my quilty projects. :P

I've also had a bit of a dilemma here the last week or so. I have a 9 year old girl that I watch in the afternoons while her mom works PT. She a bit mischievous and chatty and tends to have problems staying focused on finishing her homeschool work. She (imo) acts younger than her age probably since she's the baby of her family and came when her sisters were already teenagers. She and my Z. tend to talk a lot and distract each other so that they both get behind. She's here when we do our co-op class but has chosen not to join in. I'd been allowing her to work by herself in my girls' bedroom while we did our class downstairs. Usually this hasn't been a problem but about a week and a half ago, Z came downstairs and told me she had ripped her bed sheet. I went to see what she was talking about and found this...

The sheet was not ripped it had been cut, and it's a big cut. Apparently the little girl (A.) had pointed out the "rip" to Z. the day before. There was also scribbled ink on her sheet and S.'s and a scribble on their bunk bed. My girls are old enough to know better and Z. was very upset that I would yell at her for ripping the sheet;she had no idea that it had been cut. It became obvious that A. had likely cut the sheet some time during our class when she was by herself. I talked to her mom, we both talked to A., she apologized and bought Z. new sheets from her allowance. We decided as a punishment she would not be allowed to stay in the girls' room by herself for a while. A few days ago, Z. told me she found a cut in her quilt. I thought she meant her comforter so I went to look and this is what I found...

Most likely, this was done at the same time as the sheet but A. completely denies doing this. Z. uses her quilt all the time but doesn't really make her bed so she hadn't noticed before (and she never would have done it herself since she likes her quilt). I haven't told A.'s mom yet about the quilt. DH was home on the day we found out about the quilt and said that I should just tell the mom that we can't watch A. anymore. (A. overheard our conversation and I know she hasn't told her mom about what happened either.) Her mom's my friend and I don't want to create any bad feelings between us so I'm at a loss about what to do.

Anyone have any suggestions?

I know it's a busy time of year, but there's plenty of eye candy and inspiration on the other Design Wall posts on Judy's blog to check out if you have some down time.


Pattilou said...

Oh, my, this is a problem. Consequences of our behaviors are not always met with continuing friendships.

A time allowance for A to tell her mom or you'll intercede with you being there while she tells her mom, might be a possibility. I'm thinking she'd rather face her mom alone than with you there too.

I hope that you can still be on good terms with the mom, but sometimes things like this interfere with friendships of the adults involved. Having been a teacher I've found many mom's really don't want to hear about their child's behavior as it tends to make them feel insecure about their parenting. Good luck to you. Hope you can find a resolution!

Annie said...

It sounds to me that A wants some attention and this is her way of getting it, even though it's negative attention. Unless she admits that she cut the quilt as well as the sheet, you don't have real proof that she did it. I feel sorry for her, but you can't allow her to stay in a room by herself in your home. She has lost your trust. I wonder what goes on in her own home and why she feels the need to act the way she has. Is she upset that her mother has to work and can't be home with her?

Heather said...

Your log cabin baby quilt is gorgeous! Congrats on getting it finished. :o)

The picture of the cut quilt just broke my heart. I can only imagine how bad you must feel! I hope you can come up with a solution to your problem. Wishing you the best of luck!